1. Look Better (Than His Future Girlfriend).
A perfect girlfriend always gives her best to look beautiful for her man. Men are visual creatures. We like a woman that looks good, that’s obvious. So take care of your looks. You don’t have to look like a supermodel – not at all, just look the best you can, use body lotion, have soft, silky smooth skin that he wants to kiss around the clock.
Keep things fresh, and stay as beautiful as you were when you just met – even better, work on yourself to become even more beautiful (physically). You can hate him for wanting this, but that’s a reality. It’s not like you’re attracted to elephants… wait, you are? :/
On the other hand, don’t look good for him, but for yourself. You’ll naturally be more confident and attractive when you feel good in your own skin. If you’re overweight, here’s the “magic pill” of weight loss: stop eating sugar (it’s almost everywhere, especially “healthy” stuff, and super-especially – juices). Yeah, it’s that simple. Just stop eating sugar, not fat – sugar. That’s our real enemy.
Another way to look better (if you’re not born with an unfair advantage of supermodel looks and enough money for plastic surgery), is to build a bigger, rounder booty . Big butts are a trend. Don’t believe me? What planet do you live on, girl? This girl doesn’t need to have a brain , any guy would dump you for her at the drop of a hat. Sad, but true.
2. Smell Like a Flower… Or something like that.
There’s nothing like smelling amazing for your guy. A scent of a woman can make a man fall deeply in love; your smell gets engraved deeply in his mind. He memorizes it. No matter how forgetful he is. Your smell stays. He can recall it and remember you immediately. So make sure you’ve got a signature perfume.
Have a unique smell, a perfume he loves. Use shampoo that he loves so your natural scent makes him melt of love. Coconut, vanilla. It’s so much easier to love your girlfriend if she’s beautiful and gives her best to stay beautiful for you. Don’t get lazy. We get each other for granted, get lazy, fat, dumb. So keep moving. Moving is living.
3. Learn the Art of Productive Nagging.
Look. As far as men are concerned, you’re not “normal” 75% of a month. You’re crazy a week before you get your period, you’re crazy during your period, and you’re crazy a week after your period – so we consider that you’re emotionally (relatively) “stable” only 1 week during a month. When you feel like screaming at him, count to ten. And learn the Art of Nagging.
When you nag and complain, all men hear is “yada, yada, yada…” – it’s counterproductive. And you’ll only make him resentful and dream about his single days when he didn’t have to report to explain his throwing-socks-all-around-the-place self to anyone (except maybe his mom).
Here’s how you can nag productively :
1. don’t raise your voice, talk to him as if he was a child… or in a seductive voice… you know the way you charmed your parents into buying you something when you were a kid. That tone is golden. 2. say “honey…” (or some other cute name…) at the beginning of a request and “please” at the end. 3. phrase your complaint as a question, not a statement. Let’s say, he’s always late – and inconsiderate…
“Honey… I don’t want to nag or complain and stuff like that… (disarm him), but… you know, it would be really nice if you’d be on time (positive term, instead of “stop being late”) more often… it’s OK this time (again), but would you come on time next time, please?” Add a kiss to that. Talk to him like an child that’s relatively stupid. This works like a charm. Especially if he expects you to complain – he’ll be shocked that you didn’t scream at him, and feel a lot worse, than if you’ve gotten into an argument. Be discreet, indirect. If you attack him directly, he’ll feel offended and he’ll try to rationalize his behavior and you’ll just get into a fight.
Nag and complain strategically – so it never seems like an attack, but a bit more deceptive and classy. He’ll do as you say. I promise. Try this next time. On second thought… you shouldn’t be making a big deal about small stuff anyway, woman! 😉
4. Love Him (Like, For Real).
A perfect girlfriend loves her guy more than anything. She really loves him and will do anything to keep him happy and satisfied. If necessary, she’ll even get into a fight for him. Loving him is the first step to being a great girlfriend, he needs to know and feel that you really love him, that there’s a deeper connection – that he isn’t just a rebound or just some guy you’re with because you’re afraid of being alone. That’s not fair to your perfect match. He’ll come along, don’t worry.
If your feelings aren’t true and it’s just a “maybe” – just break up. It’ll be better for both of you.
And if you do really love him… Cuddle, hug, kiss, smooch, make love and say “I love you” whenever you have chance.
5. Love Yourself (Even When There’s Nothing to Love About You).
Being insecure and asking “am I fat?” 20 times a day is annoying. Stop being insecure – it’s not attractive.
Your guy will have a hard time to love you if you can’t love yourself first. Do everything to feel great in your own skin. When you love yourself, you are more confident and you radiate a positive energy that draws people to you. Every day when you look at yourself in the mirror say “I love you, you’re beautiful, you’ll have an awesome day today.” It’s a 5 second ritual that could change your life.
Do good things and make other people happy – this will give you more “life credit” and it will make you feel better about yourself. Make other people happy and you’ll be a happier person. It’s that simple. A girlfriend that radiates a positive energy, smiles every day and enjoys life is definitely a better girlfriend than some cranky b*!ch that sucks the life out of your brain. Like a zombie. There’s only one thing you should be sucking out of him (pun intended).
6. Don’t Give Him (Too Many) Reasons to Be Jealous.
Obviously, a perfect girlfriend isn’t just faithful, but also never makes her guy even feel jealous at all. You don’t flirt around with other guys if you love your boyfriend.
Let him know that he is The Guy for you and that you need nothing other than him. He needs to feel this. You develop trust in him by showing that you are only interested in him, he also won’t have a reason to be jealous all the time if you’re getting a lot attention. The best way to do this is to have a “don’t ask, don’t tell policy” – never touch his phone, never read his emails, don’t share bank accounts. When a guy feels he has space, that’s when he doesn’t do anything (like cheating), but when he feels “caged” that’s when he does crap. And the best way to have him trust you is by not mistrusting him either.
7. Like His Friends (Or Pretend You Do).
There’s nothing worse than a girlfriend that doesn’t like your friends – and openly complains about them.
Sure, his best friend Joe may be an imbecile – but he is still his best friend. You can give him a friendly suggestion if you think some of his friends aren’t good for him, but don’t be aggressive about it. Let him make his own decisions. You are his girlfriend, not his mother, and if you continue complaining about his friends, you might just become an annoying ex.
Again, don’t go at it directly, instead, be strategic. Take your time. Make it seem like it was his idea (to meet new people) or hang out with people you like. Then again, don’t destroy his “power base” and friends… if the only person left in his life after a few years with you – is you – he’ll subconsciously start resenting you.
A perfect girlfriend likes his imperfect friends just out of respect. As I mentioned, the worst you can do to a guy is to take him away from all of his friends and connections, this makes a guy weaker psychologically, and socially less powerful, so it can shatter his confidence – then you might not be as attracted to him as you were when you just met. The best thing you can do is to encourage him to grow his network, meet new people, etc. Once he grows, he’ll outgrow his imbecile friends – over time, and they’ll just stop getting drunk all the time, nobody will figure out those were your “moves” all along.
Remember, it’s a game of chess, not Mortal Kombat.
8. Be a Sex Goddess. Scratch that. Be His Personal Sex Goddess.
A girlfriend isn’t “perfect” if she doesn’t perform great in bed. Period.
You can’t just be good in bed – you must be better than all of his ex girlfriends combined. Hundreds of books have been written for women about sex; unfortunately, most of them are complete nonsense. I would only suggest one resource for sex tips, and most men would agree with me, this guide is the only thing I’d recommend (don’t read it if you are under 21 and get offended easily). Read YQ’s exclusive review of this guide here.
Great sex brings you closer, and keeps you together for years, and years, even if other spheres of your relationship aren’t perfect. If you ever see some “she doesn’t even look nice” chick with a stud, it is what you’re thinking (her BJ skills).
Find out what makes your guy go wild, and then fulfill all of his fantasies. Yes – all of his fantasies, because that’s what a perfect girlfriend does. She does what other girlfriend’s don’t do. That’s why she’s not single, divorced, or married to a loser. Sex is her secret weapon.
9. Can You Even Boil An Egg? Don’t lie.
The path to a man’s heart isn’t that complicated.
You need to be amazing in bed, and cook him delicious meals. Steak and BJ Day should be every day. Over-priced marriage therapists would be digging up trashcans.
I know that “contemporary, working women” don’t have time, energy or the willpower to cook anymore. Nobody expects you to live in the kitchen, but visit it every now and then. It works. I know that a delicious meal is just a phone call away, but even if you make him a simple sandwich that doesn’t even taste that good – it’s the effort that counts, not the taste.
As it says in the Bible, Luke 12:33-34 “A real woman never let her man leave the house hungry or horny.” Okay, maybe that wasn’t in the bible. My bad. But they should put it in there. You know, when a guy’s digesting a big beefsteak and he just got an amazing BJ, he’d never go to war. You can save the world after all!
No, seriously, with so many YouTube video’s out there, you should at least learn make the basics. If not for him, for yourself, otherwise you’ll just eat processed junk all the time and or waste money on overpriced restaurants (you don’t want to see their kitchen!). So, if you want to be the perfect girlfriend, get back to the kitchen, and stop wearing pants and flats. High heels and skirts, and then back to the kitchen, woman!
10. Surprise!
Give him a gift every now and then. Make him feel loved and special. Do what other women will not, or do rarely, then do it more often.
A small token of appreciation is always welcome. Give him a massage. Pamper him. He’ll always return back for more (if not, dump him, he’s not worth your time). But seriously, most guys are not romantic. You’ve watched too many (bad) movies. It’s a dream.
His way of being romantic is slapping your big booty whenever you pass by. Unfortunately, you’ll have to get used to it. But, instead of nagging, take over the initiative. If you want more romance, organize romantic events yourself, light a bunch of candles, get some champagne. You know, keep it fresh. Travel somewhere together. Whatever. Buy experiences, not just things. And whenever you do something nice, he’ll feel the need to reciprocate.
11. Appreciate Him And You’ll Get It All Back (and Then some).
He needs to know and feel that you appreciate his efforts. When he is nice to you, when he makes you feel loved and special, let him know that you value him and that he’s important to you. It will make him feel better about himself and your relationship.
Guys just want to make you happy. Seriously. The happier you are the more effort he’ll put into keeping you that way. When you’re sad, he’ll feel like a failure. So, instead of telling him what makes you sad, always remind him what makes you happy – you’ll see, he’ll work round the clock to give you more of it.
12. Tank Up His Ego (Men Are More Insecure Than You Can Imagine).
Feed his ego from time to time. Men can also have insecurity issues (even tough we act all tough, most of us are scared shitless!)
Don’t let him get an ego-boost by chasing other women around, instead – give him his “ego shot” yourself. You know, he needs to feel macho and manly and all that stuff. Worthy.
A man needs to feel attractive and desired, too – you’re not the only one. So keep those compliments coming. This is how men operate: tell him he looks so nice every day and suddenly he’ll start caring about his looks. Tell him he’s amazing in bed and he’ll start performing better. Crazy, right?
The more you feed his selfish little ego, he more addicted he’ll get to your love and compliments.
13. Let Him Be (Or Think) He’s in Charge. And Beat His Chest. Gorilla-style.
A man wants to be “the man” in the relationship.
Let him fill that role whenever possible. If he doesn’t take the lead by himself, still, sometimes it’s okay to do things his way, or have him have the last word. You don’t have to be right every time, let him win an argument – or even better – don’t argue at all. Let him take the lead and you might actually enjoy it. Or not.
Either way, even if you’re better at changing the light bulb than he is, let him do it. Let him open the door for you, take the tab, move the couch, hold the umbrella. The more you make him “work” for you the more he’ll rationalize to himself his love for you. The deeper he digs, the harder it is for him to “climb out” of your relationship.
14. It’s a Partnership. Not every man (or woman) for himself.
You are partners (in crime), not enemies.
Always keep that in mind.
A perfect girlfriend is “perfect” because she helps her guy achieve more, grow further, and fulfill his full potential. Maybe even his destiny. You have the power to motivate him and help him grow as a person. And vice versa. Just remember, you’re in this together.
Life can be hard. When times are tough, we all need someone to lift us up emotionally, give us energy and that extra push to keep us going. A perfect girlfriend is never selfish; she is supportive and she is there for her guy in good and bad times alike.
Just don’t be one of those “movie-chicks”… not sure why they always portray the wife as some crazy woman that FREAKS the F-out when the guy loses his job? Don’t be her.
15. Get a life.
Life is unpredictable and can work in the strangest of ways. You cannot calculate everything. Today, you love your boyfriend, maybe your future husband, but tomorrow? Who knows? You don’t know if you’ll still love him 5 years from now.
Things change. You change, he changes – you might grow to love each other more and more, but also less.
That’s why you should have a life outside of your relationship. You need to be busy with your life, progressing, growing as a person, growing in your career, networking and meeting new people, maintaining friendships and creating new one’s. Because you don’t want to get depended on anyone, not too much at least. Not emotionally, not financially. It’s a psychological burden for both of you, in a way.
You need to have something you are passionate about. All of this will make both you, and your relationship stronger; thus, you’ll be a better girlfriend, too. You’ll also have more to talk about.
Having a life outside of your relationship is crucial if you want your relationship to survive, otherwise both you, and your guy will be too dependent on each other for your happiness. This dependency can be scary, and even evolve into neediness, fear or slight hatred. Having something going for you ensures that you make each other stronger, not weaker. This tightens the bond between you.
16. Be Better Than All of His Ex Girlfriends (Combined).
If you didn’t already know, here’s how men function relationship-wise. We compare everything to past personal experiences. Unconsciously, your man is judging you.
You need to be a better, and a more “perfect” girlfriend, than all of his ex girlfriends combined. You don’t have to be the hottest, sweetest, smartest woman in the world – just better than what
he has experienced before. And make him feel he couldn’t do better . So that he’s blessed to have such an Angel like you in his life.
And no, it’s not all about looks. You and your boyfriend may have a different perception of “good looking.” While some girl may be beautiful to you, she can be not-so-hot for your boyfriend, and vice versa.
The reason he’s with you, is probably because you already are better than his ex-girlfriends . In order to keep him, you’ll have to continue being better than any potential chick (the enemy ) that may come along.
The problem with the “be better than his ex’s” theory is that… if his ex girlfriend could do stuff in bed which you can’t – you’ll have to step your game up. If she did something he loved and you don’t – he will miss it, and may look elsewhere for satisfaction. No joke.
That’s the cold, hard truth. Work on it if your goal is to be perfect for him, and erase any other woman from his sexual memory, forever.
But don’t discuss his ex-girlfriends, or your ex-boyfriends. Ever. Don’t bother with him with the past. It’s you and him now. That’s what matters.
17. Give Him (Enough) Space, Don’t Be a Psycho-Chick.
A perfect girlfriend gives a guy space. You can’t be over-demanding. Some women try to keep a guy by calling him 24/7 and being overly clingy – this won’t work for long. Sooner or later, he’ll get fed up and he’ll want to break free by breaking up.
Instead of putting pressure on him, checking on him, where is he, why is he there, who is he with, when will he be home, why he did this and not that etc. why he didn’t pick up???? Instead of doing that, chillax, and let him be free (within) your relationship.
The easiest way to keep a guy is by being able to let him go. The less you try to control his every move the more control you’ll have over him, because when you trust him 100%, he will trust you back and give his best to maintain that trust.
Give him time for himself, his friends, work, whatever he needs – then when you are together, make sure he has an amazing time, so that then he is the one that wants to spend more time with you, and so that he’s the one calling you all day, or waiting for your phone call etc. Turn the tables, have him chase you. That’s the perfect girlfriend to 99% of guys.
18. Develop a Pleasing Personality.
The women men love most, are the one’s that naturally have a pleasing (not demanding, negative, nagging all day) personality. A woman with a “pleasing personality” puts your pleasure first.
She does what you like, she pleases you in any way she can, even if it takes some effort from her side. She is devoted, she loves you and she’ll do anything for you. You know – like washing his feet 😉
Just kidding. But seriously, a girlfriend that gives more than she takes in a relationship, she has a pleasing personality, and men adore women like this. If you are a feminist and you “bow to no man” – that’s all great and cool, equality… bla bla bla… whatever – but you’ll have a hard time to find real love.
A relationship should benefit everyone, neither just the guy nor just you. Stop putting stupid “rules” in your mind and stop restricting yourself on how you “would never do that” and whatnot.
I’m not saying you should wash his feet and let him abuse you, but give the guy some slack. If you’re not ready to make him feel like a King inside and outside of the bedroom, some other woman will; she’ll be considered “perfect” – you won’t. There’s a reason why American guys fall HEAD OVER HEELS in love with women that grew up in a culture where women “serve” men… where women are a bit more patriarchal and family-oriented. These women enjoy pleasing their man and making him happy (perfect!), they’re not Daddy’s Spoiled Little Princess that expects to get everything with zero effort (she ends up with nothing, in the end).
Bottom line: A “perfect” girlfriend has a pleasing personality. Are you perfect, or the perfect tense ?
19. Don’t Take Him for Granted.
Nothing is for granted, especially not your boyfriend (because he has a penis).
The worst thing you can do in your relationship is to get lazy. You stop paying attention to him, you stop appreciating all the little things you used to love about him, you stop having crazy sex all over the house, you stop taking care of yourself and your looks, you start eating a ton of junk food, watching TV series and you get mega-fat. He gets a porn addiction. Stops “jumping you” all the time, you don’t get the attention you need , you cheat, he cheats, he finds out, you find out. Whatever. You break up, change your relationship status on Facebook. The end. Repeat.
Then you wonder why you got dumped? No wonder. Look at you!
Don’t be one of those chicks that take things for granted. Seduce your boyfriend, every day, all over again. If he’s top-notch, he’s a prey. Like a zebra waiting to get eaten alive! And all those younger, no-morals, g-strings, plastic-chicks are jumping at him.
It’s a dangerous world we live in.
Don’t take him for granted, and it’ll be a way more secure place.
20. Work Out (Religiously).
The better you look, the better you’ll feel in your own skin, and the more attractive you’ll be to your boyfriend.
A perfect girlfriend gives her best to get in shape, and then stay in shape. Look great for him and you’ll be the perfect girlfriend in his mind. Here are some reasons why you should work out every day. Seriously, working out doubles your performance in, with half the effort.
21. Be a Woman.
Gone are the days when women were women, and men were men.
Now women are becoming manlier every day, and guys are behaving like total losers with no self-confidence or determination. “A good man is hard to find” – so you say, but, according to many men, a good, sexy, feminine woman may be even harder to find, these days.
Women take care of themselves less and less, they get wasted, throw up on the street, drink more beer than guys, some rarely shave and have a freaking beard (scary).
That’s cool and all, but not my cup of tea. A perfect girlfriend is first and foremost feminine. She knows how to carry herself, and behaves like a real lady (in public, not in the bedroom).
Again, I’m not telling you to go back to the kitchen and live by the housewives’ guide from the 50s , but still, the majority of men love a sweet, sexy woman that takes good care and knows how to carry herself. Burping, farting, wearing flats and pants. It’s not hot.
22. Lift!
Oh. Yeah. I already told you to work out. Well, just in case you didn’t get how important this is, here’s a reminder: Lift, lift, LIFT! And you’ll be the sexiest ever, not just physically, but mentally as well. Don’t worry, working out won’t get you buff. Keep squatting and get in the best shape of your life and your relationship will, as a result, be in the best shape of its life
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