Hey Ladies: What Your Man Really Wants Behind Closed Doors

Hi! You must’ve thought about it, done some research and perhaps, read some ‘suspect’ books all in the bid to find out what your man really wants. Frankly, the want of a man is largely dependent on his person. However, there are secrets that only a select few are privy to. If you knew all the while, then I say to you ‘well done, girl!’ but if you didn’t, a sister’s got you covered. The best part is he won’t ever have to know. Shhhh.

He wants you to learn some awesome new tricks and then surprise him: There is nothing that kills intimacy faster than routine especially for a man. Everyone has ways that excite them personally. Continual focus on these ways will render them uninteresting. Men want a lady who’s willing to try new things and if she’s bold enough to initiate them, even better! It is so important that you switch things up on him from time to time while never neglecting the old and true ways. It excites him beyond your comprehension.

He wants you to leave the lights on: You know how it is. Those days when you’re not feeling too fly and you just don’t want the bright lights enhancing everything. Your baby asks to have the lights on, you refuse and he drops it. You think it’s all good. For your man, it is very important that he sees you, ALL OF YOU. Most times, he’s not even looking for flaws. No, he just likes to see what he’s doing and the effect it has on you. Of course, the effort is not lost on his little or big friend (as the case maybe). Now, when you begin to go the extra mile to cover up, that’s when he begins to notice the flaws.

He wants to know: He wants to know how you’re feeling and what you’re thinking. A lot of women will be thinking ‘To talk dirty? God forbid.’ Sometimes, it’s not even about talking dirty (sometimes, it is); it’s about being honest. You know what you’re feeling; why not let him know it too. Praise him. Tell him how much you loved it. The beautiful thing about communicating during intimacy is the fact that words are not always needed. Sometimes, it takes a simple gasp to let him know that you’re right where you should be. Whether it is with words or with sounds; He wants to know.

 

He wants you to initiate and see it through: For men, there’s something about a lady who knows what she wants and goes for it especially in intimate affairs. When you lead, it lets him know that you want him as much as he does you. It lets him know that for you, it’s not just a routine or a chore but a raw need just like it is for him and he connects with that on a deep level.