So you’ve reached that point in your relationship where you want to take it to the next level. Some people think that sex is no big deal, but others see it as something they only want to share with an extra-special person.
Although you never want to force your girlfriend to have sex with you, you can always soothe some of her fears and reassure her that you really are a person she can fully trust. After you do this, sex comes naturally.
Below are 15 ways to make this happen
1. Be Dependable
If you want to make your girlfriend want to have sex with you, then you should show her what an amazingly dependable guy you are.
If your girl is going to trust you enough to have sex with you, whether it’s her first time or if she’s had sex before, then she has to feel like she can depend on you.
One of her fears may be that as soon as you have sex, she won’t be able to rely on you anymore because you would have gotten what you wanted. So, prove her wrong by being an upstanding and dependable guy.
Show up when you say you’re going to show up. If you routinely pick her up half an hour late for your dates, she’ll think that you don’t think she’s so special, and she’ll be less likely to have sex with you.
2. Give It Time
Some guys can be ready to have sex with a girl in the time it takes to down a beer, while some girls can take months, or even longer, to decide that they’re ready to make love.
And some girls sorry, gentlemen are really adamant about holding out for the one, and don’t even want to have sex before marriage. So, don’t rush into it wait for the girl to trust you first.
If you want to make your girlfriend want to have sex with you, the worst thing you can do is bring it up or try to force it when it’s way too early. This will turn your girlfriend off and will make her much less likely to sleep with you.
If you want to make your girlfriend trust you, then you have to be loyal to her. She’ll never have sex with you if she thinks you’re talking to or checking out other women, or even hanging out with other women.
Though you don’t have to be rude to or ignore other women, you should have a laser sharp focus on your girlfriend so she knows that you will always be there for her, especially after you start having sex.
Spend lots of time with her. Make sure that you plan at least one or two dates every week and that you check in with her at least once a day if you’re not together.
4. Treat Her Like A Lady
If you want your girlfriend to have sex with you, then you should treat her like a lady, not just like someone you want to hook up with.
To do this, you have to be a gentleman and be courteous, kind, understanding, and generally admirable. Open doors for her, give her your coat when she’s cold, pull out chairs for her, and help her carry her heavy bags.
It’s important to be a gentleman, but don’t do anything that feels too unnatural to you, or she’ll be able to tell that you’re not being yourself.
5. Clean Your Home
This may sound silly, but if you want your girlfriend to really feel special, then you shouldn’t invite her to hang out at your place if it looks like the set for World War Z.
You need to make sure to remove any dirty laundry off your floor, clean your counters, and make your bed look and smell as clean and inviting as possible.
If you drive her around a lot, you should also keep a clean car. Give your lady the respect she deserves by making sure she has a clean seat.
6. Show An Interest In All Of Her Not Just Her Body
Your girl’s biggest fear may be that you don’t care at all about her mind because you’re too busy obsessing over her body. So, you have to prove her wrong. Show her that you are about who she is as a person, about her hopes and dreams, and about what makes her tick.
Ask her about her friendships, her childhood, and her favorite experiences. Make eye contact when you talk to her. Show her that everything she says is important to you.
7. Make Sure She’s Ready To Have Sex
If you really want to treat your lady well, then you have to be able to have an idea about whether or not she’s ready for sex.
If you’re her first boyfriend, if she’s sexually inexperienced, or if she’s deeply religious or has other moral convictions that make her steadfast about not having sex, then you should back off and wait for her to trust you enough to even consider having sex with you. But here are some ways to know if she does want to have sex with you:
If things have been getting hot and heavy in the hook up department, then she may be ready to move forward.
If she’s been talking about sex, giving you sexual compliments, and touching you a lot more, then she may be ready for sex.
If she’s been hinting that she wants to sleep over, spends a lot of time in or near your bed, or invites you over late at night, then she may be ready for more intimacy.
8. Be Prepared
If you plan on trying to have sex, or even talking about having sex with your girl, then you should be prepared with some condoms in case the mood strikes her.
This doesn’t mean that you should flash the condoms or make her feel uncomfortable, but it does mean that you should have some backup just in case things do go in a favorable direction.
If she wants to have sex and you have to run out to the drugstore for some condoms, this may make your first sexual experience fall flat.
9. Set The Mood
If you want your girl to have sex with you, then you have to set the mood. You should start the evening by doing something romantic to soften her up.
Then, go back to your clean apartment, which should be stocked with red wine, grapes, chocolate, and some light jazz on the radio.
Light the candles and turn the radio on to get her in a romantic mindset, and offer her something to eat or drink. If this feels corny, you should only do what makes you both get in the mood. If you just want to dim the lights instead of lighting candles, then that’s fine too.
10. Kiss Her
If you want your girl to have sex with you, then you have to be a master kisser. Even if you’ve been kissing for a while, you should still know how to kiss her in a variety of ways and make your kisses feel fresh. Don’t overwhelm her and grope her the second you lock lips. Instead, take it slow, grazing your lips as you touch her hair or stroke her face.
11. Play Hard To Get
If you really want to make your girlfriend want you, then you shouldn’t act like a sexual beast, moving rapidly from kissing to touching, to ripping off your clothes and practically levitating into the bedroom.
Instead, you should kiss your girlfriend for a few seconds, then hold back, stroke her, and talk to her. Repeat this move a few times and wait for her to go wild.
12. Touch Her
If you want to turn on your girlfriend, you can start thinking about doing more than just kissing. Begin by lightly caressing her arms, the back of her head and hair, and then, as things progress, stroke her breasts under her shirt or wait for her to touch you. If your clothes are off or partly off, you can kiss her breasts or touch her in more sensual ways.
Just make sure that your actions are reciprocated, if you’re touching her and she just lies there and doesn’t make noise or do anything, then you’re probably making her uncomfortable. Make sure she’s ready for more before you proceed.
If you’re already in the bedroom and hooking up, then you can simply ask her if she’s ready to have sex with you. This doesn’t have to be elaborate or corny, just say, are you sure you’re ready? and be prepared for any answer.
13. Don’t Ever Pressure Her
If your girlfriend says she’s not ready to have sex with you, then you shouldn’t pressure her. Don’t try making any arguments saying things like, But we’ve been together for so long, Everyone else is doing it, or But I really, really like you, isn’t going to make her feel any better.
In fact, trying to reason with her will only make her more frustrated, annoyed, and much less likely to sleep with you.
14. Respect Her Wishes
If she changes her mind from yes to no, or asks you to stop during the act, do so immediately. It may be useful to have a chat beforehand about what she wants to do and what she isn’t ready for. Pay attention and never make her do something that she isn’t comfortable with.
15. Be A Good Judge
Learn to translate her reactions, don’t insist when she is against. There is always a tomorrow to make another try. It advisable to try a turn on when her mood is good. Feelings cannot be feigned since they are a function of the mind.
Good timing and taking matters easy will ultimately make her mellow down no matter how long the process may take. Just know she will come around when she thinks the time is right.
Credit: FemaleWorld
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