Breakup Series: Five Years Destroyed In Minutes.

I’m just in one of those moods today where you just don’t feel good about anything. You know those kinds of moods? Yesterday, I went to see Dolapo and she did not look good as much as she tried to cover up. She had bags under her eyes and try as I could, I couldn’t get her to laugh. It’s so hard to see your friend in that state and you just can’t do anything about it. She doesn’t deserve this – not in a million years, she doesn’t. I mean, she’s one of the sweetest people around. They were headed towards marriage for God’s sake! He was close with all her friends (including me) and it was obvious how much he loved her.

I’m upset because for me they were the near-perfect couple. They gave the rest of us hope that finding love is possible in these times and I was truly hoping to find a love like theirs. Imagine how it felt for me when Dolapo texted me on Whatsapp ‘Dayo and I are through. Lool’ Of course, I didn’t take her seriously because she was fond of making jokes. However, I called and as soon as I heard her say it to me; I knew that it was true.

The worst part is that there is no genuine reason on his part for breaking up with her. He makes it sound like he woke up one morning and decided that he had had enough. How is that even possible? As soon as I had got off the phone with Dolapo, I called Dayo’s home phone in UK but I got transferred to voicemail meaning he was at work so I texted him to call me when he got the message and I insisted that it was very urgent. When he called, he was very calm like nothing had happened. I asked him again and again the reason for the breakup and he kept saying the same thing ‘It was just bound to happen.’

I begged him to at least speak with Dolapo and explain things to her; even if I didn’t need to know his reasons, at least she deserved to know. He said to me ‘I can’t give Dolapo the closure she needs’ and it made me so mad that I ended the call after making an excuse.( You can’t give the closure she needs after five years together? You can’t give her that much? Gosh!) I called Dolapo to tell her what he had told me. She got mad at me for asking him in the first place. She said to me ‘I don’t need Dayo to think that I can’t live without him so I’m sending my friends to him. Priscilla, I’ve tried. If this is how he wants it, so be it.’ Her voice broke but she wouldn’t cry. I tried my best to ease the sad mood and we ended the call.